the healthiest habit to learn

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Taking things personally is one of the fastest ways to lose your peace, but it’s also one of the most common habits we all fall into. In this episode, we unpack why we’re wired to personalise everything, how old wounds and brain wiring make neutral moments feel like rejection, and what real freedom feels like when you stop making everything about you.

• Why our brains are built to take things personally (social threat detection, attachment wounds, spotlight effect)
• How low self-worth, childhood conditioning, and nervous system dysregulation make criticism and silence feel like attacks
• The psychology behind personalisation: attribution error, projection, mirror neurons, and the fear of being misunderstood
• The emotional cost: overthinking, rumination, shrinking, replaying conversations, building walls instead of boundaries

The healthiest habit you’ll ever learn isn’t about diet, fitness, or productivity; it’s about protecting your peace. Taking nothing personally is a daily practice of remembering that most of what others say and do is about them, not you.